Unwanted: How Sexual Brokenness Reveals Our Way to Healing

What it is

Jay Stringer, a licensed mental health counselor, surveyed more than 3,800 people about their unwanted sexual behaviour and found the patterns were not arbitrary: what a person seeks out corresponds to particular unaddressed experiences — specific forms of family dysfunction, abuse, unmet need, powerlessness or rage. From that he builds the book's central claim, that the brokenness itself contains the clues to the healing, and that the productive question is not how do I stop but what is this telling me. That reframing does something no amount of accountability can: it converts self-hatred, which fuels the cycle, into curiosity, which interrupts it. Published by NavPress, with a companion workbook available. Widely regarded as the most important book in this field of the last decade. With Surfing for God it is the essential root-cause pairing here; the MercyCast interview with Stringer, also listed, is a free way in.

What it may help with

• I'm struggling with porn or sexual sin
• I'm healing from sexual abuse or trauma
• I need professional counseling

How to access it

Paperback, ebook and audiobook (NavPress) Purchase from a bookseller

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