When a Man You Love Was Abused

What it is

A wife often sees the shape of it before he does: the flinching, the shutdown, the sexual patterns that never quite made sense. Cecil Murphey wrote this for her. It explains what childhood sexual abuse does to a man and how it surfaces years later in a marriage, and it is clear about the limits of her role — she cannot be his therapist, cannot heal him by loving him enough, and cannot make him disclose before he is ready. What she can do is stop misreading his behaviour as being about her. For a woman dealing with both a husband's pornography use and a history underneath it, this and a partner-trauma resource together do more than either alone.

What it may help with

• My spouse's porn use has hurt me
• We're rebuilding our marriage
• I'm healing from sexual abuse or trauma

How to access it

Paperback and ebook (Kregel) Purchase from a bookseller

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